We are more than a decade into the twenty-first century and yet we live by dogmas…….
Beliefs rule our work and personal world. Beliefs are more often than not a lie. Beliefs lead us to act or think about something in a way not because we have experienced it but because it is just believed to be true. Beliefs are not necessarily based on logic. Each of us have our belief system and some of them are acquired along the journey of life or some that is ingrained into us from childhood. Most of them we choose not to question.
I grew up in India, and some of the common beliefs are
- if the husband dies soon after marriage, the wife has brought the bad luck
- widow needs to wear white
- if you are good you will go to heaven when you die
- a marriage is all about compromises
- if a particular dish is cooked in a specific way and this is a family tradition it is carried out from generation to generation without anyone asking why is it done the way it is done & is it necessary?
- crying is bad and makes you weak. Controlling your feelings makes you strong
- when a black cat crosses the road whilst you are walking it is a bad omen
In an organizational context beliefs can take the following shape
- to join us as a coach or as a leadership trainer, you need to be trained by us. It doesn’t matter if you have been certified.
- this is the only way to service a customer efficiently and it has worked for us for several years.
- we will continue to service our existing customers with our existing products and there is no necessity to look at growing our range of products and services we offer to them.
Many of us become so intertwined with our beliefs that we practice it as a behavior & impose it on others. Beliefs are created by some data or knowledge that may have been gathered or gained without actually experiencing it or questioning the logic of the information.
Only when we separate our lives from beliefs and start living based on our own experiences, we start to be in control of our true journey of life.
Impact of beliefs
1. Fear – most people don’t want to question because they Fear that they will be excluded or thought of as unconventional. If I ask questions on their adopted practices, I cut my career progression. In a larger context, if organizations refuse to break away from their conventional thinking they run the risk of not adapting. They short change themselves from creative thinking, growth, and development.
2. Happiness – many of us for a large part our lives define success and well-being in terms of the external world. We live in this myth that our happiness is linked to the materialistic world. We continue to seek peace of mind from the external world.
Have you questioned if that gives you peace of mind, happiness and fulfillment? Have you tried going on an inner journey?
3. Thoughts – Our thoughts reflect in our feelings and our actions. If we refuse to relinquish our deep-seated beliefs, they become our thoughts. These thoughts control us, dictate our actions and define who we are.
Would you like to be known by your beliefs or would you like to live your experiences?
Would you like to limit your potential by these beliefs?
Let your fear, thoughts or dogmas not restrict your innate potential. Ask relevant questions
- Have you asked yourself why is something done the way it is done?
- What is stopping me from getting what I need?
- Would you rather be part of a group who question, challenge and help you grow rather than agreeing with you on everything you say and do?
- Are you a product of your beliefs?