“No way, I cannot accept failure.” This was one of my clients who had this belief when I first met him.
“Failure is where my dreams are shattered and there is no coming back.”
“Failure sounds as if there is no turning back and everything is lost.”
“Failure has negativity attached to it and that there is no light at the end of the tunnel.”
This is what my client shared with me about what he thought was failure.
Failure is a word which I believe tends to over exemplify a mistake. If you don’t learn from your mistakes and continue to be on the path of arrogance, and remain egoistic, then it is not a mistake but a choice to follow your falsified ego. The final destination as a result is worse than ‘failure’.
I have learnt from mistakes and still learning. The conversation about failure with this client of mine came flooding back to my thoughts this week because I allowed myself to trust someone despite my instinct telling me otherwise.
There are some subtle things in life where you realize that despite life teaching you some things, you still fail to do it right every time …
What are these subtle things you can do to improve the outcome of a situation?
1. Trust your instinct – life has taught me to trust my gut and intuition but there are times when I deviate since I give credence to my doubts on my instinct.
Learn to trust your instincts, if something feels amiss, go with that and follow your gut. Click To Tweet
2. Avoid naysayers – you meet different people in your life and there are some people who are narcissistic, wishy-washy, pull you down with their negative talk and discouragement. It is not worth wasting your time on such people. Some of these people are easy to spot but yet others aren’t. There is hurt before you realize that their acquaintance, and the so-called ‘friendship’ is not worth it. Let them go for your own peace of mind and sanity.
3. Some things are not meant to be – You don’t get what you want in many turns of your life, though you may have given your best. Trying to find an explanation or a reason only makes matters worse.
Stop overthinking and learn to accept that some things aren’t meant to be, no matter how much you want them. Click To Tweet
Be persistent but learn to let go of things which don’t seem to come your way.
4. Face to face communication – in this day and age of Social Media and mobile phones, people seem to “talk” more to their mobile phones than engage in face-to-face communication. Be part of the change but never forget there is always value in face to face communication. Misunderstandings and miscommunication can happen on written communication. Next time, pick up the phone and speak to the person or meet the person face to face.
5. Acting on Impulse – There can be as much value in the blink of an eye as in months of rational analysis – Malcolm Gladwell.
There is a time and place for acting on impulse as much as taking the time to make the right decisions. Judge the moment, pause and then decide how to act.
Life happens in a blink of an eye and yet there are many lessons to be learnt in each of these “blinks”. Click To Tweet
What are you learning from life?
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