Picture a scenario in a playground or in a jail where a large bulky kid beats up a small kid or a large honcho in a jail victimizes a relatively weak soul. Most of us can easily associate with this character, called The Bully
Bullies are one we either witness as a child or one some of us may have been victimized by.
In organizations as well we do face bullies but the behavior is not in the form of beating up somebody physically.
The Karpman Triangle describes some habitual roles or positions that people tend to take up in a negative situation or while in conflict. This model suggests that each of us display unconsciously motivated behavioral patterns with the people whom we are in contact with. There is an unconscious belief/s that drives our behaviors or actions which causes or contributes to evoke a feeling. This feeling augments beliefs or perceptions about ourselves and others and how we fit in and how we are treated. Most of these beliefs or perceptions are negative. The model posts three habitual psychological roles. But research by some of the Coaching Institutes have added a fourth behavior.
The three roles are : Bully, Victim, Rescuer and the Fourth one being Seducer. How do you recognize people who display traits of each of the 4 categories,
Each of us at various times do play some of these roles depending on the situation but the concern is when the drama traits become a dominant factor.
As Coaches, we do meet clients who may display some of these traits on a dominant basis.
Insecurity, feeling unwanted expressed in ways of helplessness or acting very busy or acting as if they are the most important are traits which need to be addressed.
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