perspective | Little Things That Matter

I was in a conversation with a friend of mine over the weekend and she suddenly remarked, I have become slow in whatever I am and in whatever I do. To quote “I feel I have become lethargic about a lot of things in my life. I feel I have lost my edge”. That statement caught my attention especially given her tone and facial expressions with which she said it. As soon as I heard her say that, I asked her how so?

The conversation went on for long as she was narrating several incidents in her life and how she had behaved. From her statements and the questions I asked her, I observed that she had become more mindful and conscious in a lot of things that she does. She thus feels frustrated at times that she is no longer the energetic and enthusiastic self that she was known for.

It was interesting that she made a strange connection between being mindful and being lethargic and thus dissociating herself with her energetic and enthusiastic younger self.

Are you disappointed with a conscious change you have made in life?

Have you reflected what these changes are and why you made those changes?

Do you consider yourself as a failure and somebody who has given up in life on account of some changes in your perspectives?

You are not a FAILURE if:

1. You are more conscious and aware in what you do instead of acting on impulse.

2. You think twice and don’t react to your emotions be it in responding to others verbally or in writing.

3. You have consciously slowed down in terms of how you plan your day instead of feeling constantly being on the rat race.

4. You are aware about your emotions and this awareness helps you to recognize your emotions and yet frame your communication in a way that it lands properly on the recipient.

5. You realize that when things don’t go as per your plan, it is not about you or the other person but it is about finding out what were the gap or interferences were that led to the plan not being met.

6. You realize that in your gym or yoga or exercise regime, each day is different and your body is different. Change is part of your body and each day is different and thus you need to keep an open mind.

7. You like action and fast pace but there are things in life you realize you need to step back. Accepting the latter doesn’t mean you have given up.

8. The circumstances in every aspect of your life is different from 15, 10, 5 or 1 year back and you need to change your way of thinking and the way you behave.

9. You are goal oriented and an achiever but your experiences have taught you that anger doesn’t help when the goal is not achieved as per your plans.

10. You take mini breaks to gain insights and help your lateral thinking.

You are not old if you have adapted to circumstances and made yourself more flexible in your attitude. We all need to evolve in our thinking and our behavior. Only way to do this is to keep an open mind, reflect, unlearn, relearn and look at things with a fresh perspective.

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In life what we see depends on what we look for. Perspective is the point of view or the ability to see something tangible or intangible objectively.

Each of us have the ability to choose our reactions to challenges or situations that life presents us with. To me there are three types of Perspectives

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1.The Right Perspective – Many times each of us think that the difficulties that we encounter are possibly the worst. However there are people out there with much worse problems than mine or yours and taking that view when we are down and out helps put a right perspective to life.

It’s okay that different people will come up with different ideas about the meaning of life. However, life ends up feeling a lot more gracious and open if each of us stop projecting our meaning on someone else. What matters is we don’t give up hope nor do we take away hope from some one else. This particular clip from the movie “Shaw Shank Redemption” resonates this message well

2. The Wrong Perspective – One of the best examples is the view that many in this World have on where Women belong and the treatment meted out to her. Women have been discriminated in many parts of the world in their access to food, education, work, healthcare, and in opportunities to participate in their development, to think,and realize their dreams or even in their basic right to live.

In many parts of the world women are mere instruments of the ends of others whim and fancy – as sexual victims, re-producers, care takers, and as agents of a family’s general prosperity. Their acceptability is only as appendages of men, as daughters, sisters, wives, mothers, and not as one who has her own identity and a basic right to live her life the way she wants it.

For those who are so opinionated about where women don’t belong, may be consider the suggestions in the video below. Where Do Women Belong

3. The Differing Perspective this clip from the movie “Shaw Shank Redemption”, in my view beautifully conveys the different perspectives of a word like ‘rehabilitated’. This scene reminds of me the pep talk that senior management of many firms give to employees when a company cuts salaries or jobs. Or the numerous speeches that we have so often heard from many politicians re: unemployment numbers and how the economy is doing better. Ask a man without a meal a day and his perspective on the state of the economy or job loss may be way different.

We all know about some of the you tube videos going viral. However, it is not necessary that the more number of views a video has, that it conveys a hard-hitting message or something worth watching. May be it is the curiosity as to why a video has gone viral that makes one view it ?

Each of us are unique and with different strokes but what we cannot have is The Wrong Perspective. Live, Let Live and Be Human.

Thank you for reading this post. If you have any comments or a different perspective please feel free to add those in the Comments Section Below.

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