“There is no way I can do this.”
“I admire you for being so courageous, I doubt if I ever can be like you”.
How many times have you uttered those words out loud or had thoughts similar to those? More importantly, how many times have these inner thoughts been so loud that they have stopped you from pursuing creative thinking or coming up with fresh ideas?
All of us have these little voices or the inner gremlin sitting on our shoulder, at various intensities at various points of time in our lives telling us we’re not good enough or we don’t deserve what we have got or we are not capable.
These voices of self-doubt or inner critique stop you in your pursuit of excellence and from your growth and development.
How do you face your inner gremlin and tell her or him to shut up ?
How do you unplug your fears and “Just Do It”?
1. Clarity
Clarity of purpose is a great guide to achieving what you set out to do so. That inner guide reminds you of your purpose and why you do what you do. Do you have clarity on your purpose ?
2. Listen
When the little voice is a deal stopper, listen up. Listen to what it is telling you. Write it down and don’t dwell on it at that moment. Walk away. Come back and read it.
3. What is the worst that can happen ?
When you read what you have written, evaluate objectively what is the worst case scenario ? Is there any truth in your fear ? What happened when you faced a similar fear last time ? How did you get over it ? What did you do well ? What lessons did you learn?
4. Truth
Once you have identified the worst case scenario and there is some credence to your fear, ask how can you better from the worst case scenario ? What do you need to do to achieve the desired results and improve from the worst case scenario?
5.Self-Confidence
To enhance your self-confidence, you need to stop worrying and ask yourself how much is the price you are willing to pay for worrying and is it worth it? Self-confidence is built from self-acceptance and by identifying your strengths and achievements in the past. How did you overcome your last challenge?
Get support from a coach or a mentor to assist you in where you want to be.
Your fear and self-doubt is the truth, if you give power to it.
How are you breaking from your fears and doubts and setting yourself on the path to success?
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Terri Klass says
Great post, Lalita and I love all of your points. I can especially relate to #3- What is the worst that can happen? When we address the worst case scenarios we sometimes realize that something is getting in the way and that becomes our focus to overcome.
Thanks for your great insights!
Terri
Lalita Raman says
Thank you Terri. Yeah no. 3 is one of my favorites too. It is also the most difficult to do that without getting into a vicious cycle of negativity :). I appreciate your insights. Thank you