I was at the gym yesterday and two women were exchanging a rather loud conversation in the ladies changing room. I could not help pay attention to one of the remarks made by one woman to her friend. One of the ladies asks her friend, so how was your week-end to which her friend replies ” I spent a lot of my weekend living in the moment”. I turned around and had a smile on my face when I heard that remark. I smiled because it is not often that I hear that response. The lady who had asked her friend the question, of course was confused and started asking a lot of questions at which point in time I was well on my way out of the ladies changing room and was rushing for my class.
The moment that is now and every moment that is yet to arrive will be history by the time you finish reading this statement. Be in this moment, live and enjoy this moment.
These are statements that you read in blogs, quotes , hear from your friends and read in various self-help books and possibly remind yourself at various points in your day.
Have you wondered ever so often what does living in the moment mean?
How do you practice it in your busy days filled with tasks and different roles to play ?
Don’t we spend most of our lives thinking about something else other than what we are doing right now?
“Human beings have this unique ability to focus on things that aren’t happening right now. That allows them to reflect on the past and learn from it; it allows them to anticipate and plan for the future; and it allows them to imagine things that might never occur,” said Matthew Killingsworth, a doctoral student in psychology and lead author of the study.
Whilst I was catching up on reading over the weekend, this video caught my attention. This Polar Bear Cub Has A Lot To Teach Us About Making the most of the moment and enjoying it while we can.
After I watched this video I got to thinking which are those moments when I know I am in the now and fully present. Thinking about this lead me to writing this blog post ….
When I :
- Am with nature either hiking, rafting, or on a boat.
- Am in a garden filled with beautiful flowers
- See a butterfly perched on a flower
- Am on a roller coaster
- In a coaching session when I know I have to be mindful and present and cannot allow my mind to wander.
- Walking with a dog or the time I spend with my friends dog.
- Taking a test or writing an exam
- Physical Painful moment which consumes my entire energy at that moment or when I see someone else in pain.
- Am at the gym and yoga.
- Reading an interesting book or watching a nail-biting movie.
- Listening to a story that is emotional.
- Cooking a new recipe
- Am taking on a new challenge
- Exploring new places whilst on travel.
- Am Laughing or crying.
Just connecting to some of these moments helps me to tide over times when my mind starts to wander. There are possibly many other moments when I am in the now but they typically range around one of the things that I have mentioned above.
How often have you been in situations when you realize that the person whom you are speaking to, is not there with you. One of the best ways to be empathetic is to practice connective listening. We live in a complex world today and yet there are many times you feel that there is not an empathetic ear to listen to you. What you need most is a special heart that listens in mind, body and soul to you. Practicing connective listening, in my view is possible only if you are in the moment.
Mindfulness is being fully involved in the moment of being or doing no matter what the task is even if that means nothing. Meditation helps you to be more mindful in each moment of choice, to be focused and fully aware.
When are the moments in your life when you have connected in the now?
How do you treat yourself to more of these live in the moment?